CHERRIE TAM ECE, M.Ed
Chief Baby Officer
Cherrie is a Parenting Coach and Author who specializes in baby, toddler and preschooler development.
She has a background in child psychology + early childhood education and earned an M.Ed in Early Childhood Education from the University of British Columbia.
Over the past decade, she has had the opportunity to work with parents and children in various early learning contexts in both Vancouver and Toronto, as well as, mentor ECE diploma students at the college level.
Her forte is in helping parents take the guesswork out of parenting young children so they can feel confident in raising children who are happy, healthy, emotionally intelligent, socially literate + well adjusted. Cherrie is also wildly passionate about building a community that supports parents to take care of their well being too (physically, mentally, emotionally & spiritually) – so they don’t lose themselves in the parenthood rollercoaster.
Ever since I was a little girl, I dreamed of becoming a mom…
So when it was time to choose a career, I naturally gravitated to working with babies and tots.
Little did I know I had magical powers in building deep connections with sleep-deprived-hormone-out-of-whack-not-sure-who-I-am-anymore mamas, and I also had a natural gift of being able to offer them comfort during their hardest days.
What I also wasn’t expecting was a decade-and-a-half long therapy session for myself, as my schooling and work with new parents forced me to dig real deep into the wounds of my past – all the unaffirmed feelings, unresolved conflicts, and unprocessed stressors that were locked deep inside me from when I was little.
Now don’t get me wrong, I had a pretty ordinary childhood.
Just like any other kid, I had my episodes of ups + downs – defiant moments with an underlying need to be understood, rage-filled moments with a hidden desire to be acknowledged, meltdown moments where all I wanted was to feel accepted and loved.
I always knew my parents loved me and they always gave me the very best, BUT…..
they weren’t always the best at communicating and expressing their love for me, especially during the times when I was uncooperative, defiant + difficult to manage.
Have you ever had those moments where you vowed NEVER to be like your parents….or in-laws?
I sure did!
In my naive little mind, I was going to have perfect open honest communication with the little guys, I’d never fly off the handle when they pushed my buttons, and I’d be able to control + regulate my own emotions when theirs were flying high.
Boy was I wrong.
Because when the little guys actually put me to the test, I reverted right back to the ineffective communication strategies and coping mechanisms that have been ingrained in me ever since I was little. And I knew I had to break the mould of my childhood influences.
This gave me the biggest wakeup call as to how much we pick up from our parents: from what they say, from what they don’t say, from how they act, and from how they react to things big and small in life. And these behaviours become who we are and impact how we function as adults in our day-to-day life, at our jobs, in our marriages, and in how we parent!
It’s a vicious cycle that is hard to break without consciously working on it, and it’s my hope to be able to share the lessons I’ve learned along the way so your family doesn’t have to spiral down the vortex of disconnect like mine did…..before it got better.
At the heart of it, I strongly believe that learning effective strategies to deal with difficult + uncomfortable day to day challenges in the early years is the KEY to building emotional intelligence that has astronomical long-term benefits – for your kiddos, for your family and for YOU.
After all, it’s easy to show love when everything is going your way. But the tricky part is communicating and expressing that love when life gets stressful, when days are exhausting, and when your patience is tested to the max.
Parenting is hard but I’m cheering for you!
Let’s nurture a strong relationship with your littles so they will always feel accepted and loved.
Feel free to reach out if you ever have any questions or even just to say Hi.