Certainly you guys are all too familiar with the scene pictured above?!?
You know, the one where your sweet kiddo doesn’t get their way and the next thing you know they’re wailing in agony on the floor and you’re convinced your neighbour thinks you’re abusing your child!
Oh life with TODDLERS!
Unfortunately, tears are inevitable but with a few tweaks in what you do + say you can minimize those tantrums and create space for calmer kids and more sanity for you.
1. Follow through with what you say
Our little guys are very smart and will purposely try to push the limits just to see what you’ll do.
Often times they don’t even want what they are asking for but they’re actually just trying to test you to see if you really mean what you say. So follow through!
There may be tears and protesting and while you may feel guilty for not giving them what they want…it doesn’t make you a bad parent. These trials are actually the basis of building a trusting, respectful + loving relationship!
2. Pick your battles
There will be times when your littles will want to wear the left shoe on the right foot or they’ll have egg beater legs that can’t stop swinging and kicking the table or the back of your seat.
And while it’s our job to lead and guide them so they’ll learn the “rules”…..some days it’s just not worth the fight. So pick your battles wisely to avoid unnecessary meltdowns.
3. Give them time to process your request
Whenever we ask our toddlers to do something you’re creating a learning opportunity for them to understand the world, to make connections, and to build their memory. But it does take a while for all that data to be sorted in their developing brains, so remember to slow your pace down so they can process what it is you are asking of them and then give them time to formulate a response before jumping in to help them.
Many times they are capable and WANT to do it…..we just needed to be a wee bit more patient in waiting for them to be ready to follow through.
And because we jumped in too quickly, they felt like they were losing their independence and then they feel the need to assert themselves and……well you know how that story ends.
4. Offer just enough help
Me! Mine! No! These are probably words that your little loops on the regular.Toddlers are going through a phase where they’re trying to figure out who they are…so naturally asserting their independence is going to be the name of the game.
Help them develop self-confidence and learn what they are capable of by offering “just enough” help so they can feel successful completing the task without you doing it all for them.